There is always one person you love who becomes that definition. It usually happens retrospectively, but it happens eventually. This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of these lovable qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable. The person who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than anyone else, and they’re often just the person you happen to meet the first time you really, really, want to love someone. But that person still wins. They win, and you lose. Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about everyone else.
― Chuck Klosterman (via nansense)
It’s not hard to decide what you want your life to be about. What’s hard, she said, is figuring out what you’re willing to give up in order to do the things you really care about.
Sometimes it is better to keep your opinion to yourself especially if you were not there when it happened because unwittingly, you’ve just cast doubts in the minds of people around you and hurt relationships along the way. If you have nothing good to say, be like the clam and just shut your mouth up.